Letter to the Next Person Dating My Ex – Emma Walker

Letter to the Next Person Dating My Ex – Emma Walker


A Note from the Blog Author

In Cora Finsley’s book Feminine Healing Odyssey, there is an exercise where readers are encouraged to write a letter—whether to their ex, themselves, or even the person who comes next. It’s a powerful way to release emotions, reflect, and move forward after heartbreak. Below is one such letter, written by Emma, who bravely shares her story with us.



The Message


It started out like a dream. We connected so easily, despite the distance. He lived in Denver, and I was in Chicago. But we made it work—endless video calls, texting every day, and sharing plans for our future together. I thought it was perfect. I’m sure if you asked him, he might tell you a different story, but this is the truth as I lived it.


I remember the promises. We talked about meeting in person, and I rearranged parts of my life just for him. I started applying for jobs in Denver because I wanted to be closer to him. I gave so much of myself—time, energy, and dreams—all for someone I thought was worth it. He said things like, "I love you" and "I can’t wait to marry you one day." At the time, I believed every word.


Now, looking back, I see the red flags I ignored because I wanted love so badly.


Things started falling apart about a year ago. He and I both said we shared the same values and faith, which made me trust him even more. He often talked about his big dream of starting a film company to create movies based on faith and the Bible. I thought we were aligned in our values. So when I felt that I needed to set some boundaries, I thought he would understand.


I asked him for support. I told him that I wanted to stay true to my beliefs and avoid doing things that didn’t feel right. At first, he pretended to understand, but things changed. He became distant. It felt like my request was an excuse for him to pull away, or maybe he had already found someone else—someone like you.


We tried to move past it, but the signs were there. He started saying things that made me feel small. Then he asked me something that broke me. He wanted an open relationship, where he could be with other people and still date me. He even brought up having a "friend with benefits." That’s when I realized I was holding on to something that wasn’t real anymore. I deserve love, not conditions or half-hearted effort.


After we broke up, it didn’t take long before I heard about you. The timing made me wonder if he had already started building something with you while we were still together. Maybe you were the "friend with benefits" he mentioned.


I don’t say this to blame you. Maybe you didn’t know. Maybe he lied to you just like he lied to me. I don’t want to hurt you or even hurt him. But I think you deserve to know the truth, as I would have wanted to know if I were in your place.


People say, "Time heals all wounds," but healing also comes with honesty. So here’s the truth: Even now, he still tries to reach out to me. He sends me messages, even though he’s with you. Just last month, he texted me out of the blue. At first, I thought it was just a casual check-in. But then he said things like, "I miss you," "I still think about you," and "We should have given it another chance." He lied and told me you two had broken up. I didn’t believe him.


I have proof. I’m not saying this to hurt you but to give you clarity. If you need it, I can show you screenshots of his texts. He plays games, and I don’t want you to feel the pain I felt when I discovered the truth.


You seem like a kind person, and you deserve better. I’ve come to see that I deserve better, too. Looking back, I’m grateful that he left me for someone else because I don’t think I had the strength to walk away on my own. So, thank you. Because of this breakup, I’ve found myself again.


I hope you never settle for less than the love you deserve.


With kindness,

Emma Walker



Final Thoughts


This letter is more than just words—it’s a reminder of the lessons we learn through heartbreak. In Feminine Healing Odyssey, Cora Finsley encourages readers to confront their pain head-on and let it guide them toward self-discovery and strength. Writing a letter like Emma’s can be healing. It’s not about revenge or anger but about finding closure and learning to value yourself.


If you’re going through a similar situation, know that you are not alone. You deserve honesty, respect, and love. And remember, the end of one chapter can be the beginning of a beautiful new journey.


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